I can no longer ignore the inevitable because Wednesday, June 24, is fast approaching.
And that is the day in which I must board a plane. And fly to Memphis, in which, I will get off one plane and onto another one…and head to Tacoma. A city in a state so far away from here that it might as well not even be a part of the United States.
Few other things make me as defensive or difficult as flying. Because I’m so afraid of it. Not just because I’m mean.
Flying is something that I can safely hate. I become neurotic, distraught, maybe even mean…I’m spending all my free time right now focusing on two things: 1) I cannot become so disruptive that I’m considered a person-of-suspicion, it wouldn’t do to be on the 6:00 News, and 2) I keep saying over and over, “I love flying, I love flying,” which is a bald-faced lie.
I went by McDonald’s yesterday, and so scatter-brained was I, that when the woman told me to have a Good Day, I responded with “I love flying.” I was able to order my fish sandwich without incident or confusion.
I’ve been having nightmares about flying for months, ever since we advanced at Regionals…and that’s been back in March. I suppose it’s something that in each of my nightmares, at least, the plane lands. Well, at least, it lands…now.
That hasn’t been the case this entire time; we weren’t landing up until, like, around the end of May.
What I seem to be focused on the most, lately, though, is the size of the windows on the plane. Last night, for instance, I was at some truck stop standing in absolute awe of this fry kitchen, you know the type that accompany most truck stops. Inside, it was buffet-cafeteria style, but outside there were hundreds of windows all open, all stemming from this one fry kitchen, and each window had its own style of cuisine. One window sold Mexican food; another, Creole; one was French, another, Italian. So forth and so on, all the way down the side of the truck stop.
I was standing outside with someone when a plane flew overhead. I was immediately struck with vertigo and dizziness and couldn’t find my balance. I think this is, in truth, one reason flying upsets me so. I have such bad myopic astygmatism that heights frustrate my ability to re-focus my eyes. And if I can’t maintain my balance, little else tries to maintain its balance as well: my legs, so I fall over; my stomach, so I get nauseous, etc.
I cannot not look at this plane, though. I feel like I’m staring it down, that with my very own intense gaze I’m steering it to a safe landing. I’m praying it lands safely; I’m worried about these passengers. It lands just fine, and without any help from my intense need to worry over that which I can’t control.
As it lands, the wings are pulled back into the body of the “plane,” and I see that it’s actually a large bus…with windows so big that I almost throw-up from thinking of how inescapable they would be from 30,000 feet in the air.
Oh, god, I think. If the plane’s windows on Wednesday are this large there’s no way I can fly. Because I need to be able to not see outside the plane.
I start to panic.
Whoever is standing next to me points to the window that’s selling Moroccan food, and that gets my attention, that seems to do the trick.
The last time I flew was from Indianapolis to Jackson, Mississippi. U.L. wanted me to sing in some gospel concert. The ticket was purchased at the last minute, perhaps as a means of making it all happen so fast that I wouldn’t have time to get afraid.
That, by the way, never works. Just FYI.
The plane was leaving very early in the morning, and I thought: This might be do-able. If it’s too dark out, it won’t seem as frightening. Of course, by the time I got to the airport, there was the Sun. Bright as a new penny. (Which by the way, very few people like, anymore. Who even uses a penny, these days?)
In an effort to make myself feel better, I’d rented a limousine to pick me up at the house and drive me to the airport. Maybe if I stepped out of a long-neck limo, I’d feel important, special, famous, a singer, Watch Out, World – that’s what a limousine says to an airport – We’ve got Someone Special in this car so you have to fly right, and not crash.
Of course, when you go to any airport, you get out on the opposite side to the air field. No plane ever sees the car that brings you to the “dance.”
That’s ok. People saw me, and that almost made up for it.
Until I stepped through the metal detector…then, there was no turning back.
I had four drinks in the airport bar. It wasn’t even 9:30 in the morning, yet; the bartender had to be convinced, persuaded. Thankfully, she took pity on me. It calmed me just enough to walk onto the plane and find my seat; then, my nerves came back. I immediately started to order another one, from the airline attendant, when I realized that I’d be seeing U.L. that afternoon, and tsk, tsk, tsk, that kind of breath just wouldn’t do at all.
I ordered instead tomato juice, told myself I was going to be pretending it was a Bloody Mary. I didn’t want to be drunk, mind you – if the plane did crash, I didn’t want to stand before God and have him think less of me. But, nothing else was going to calm my nerves, either. So, what to do? Pretend. Just try and pretend, I said to myself.
She brought the tomato juice and then asked me, Was I prepared to sit in an Exit Row?
I said I didn’t know what that meant, but No, Thank you, I was fine where I was.
Where I was, was an Exit Row, she informed me. That’s why my legs weren’t cramped. Exit rows, you know, have extra space to accommodate for the mass exodus of other passengers who would be flooding my small three-seat row in the event of an emergency landing.
I, in one flat second, spilled the contents of my tomato juice all down my shirt.
I could move, I said, I should probably move.
You’ll do fine, she replied. We were about to taxi down the runway. “Let me get you a napkin, sir. In the meantime, you should familiarize yourself with this.” She handed me the laminated tri-fold pamphlet explaining the procedure for emergency landings. There were no faces on the people jumping down the yellow slide to safety. I found that creepy. Maybe if they were smiling, I’d feel less inclined to barricade myself in the bathroom and sing spirituals.
She returned and then began to explain that they’d never had to use an Exit Row before, but it was protocol to explain to each passenger who sat in one. I looked around; apparently I was flying with a seasoned group of passengers. No one else was in an Exit Row; or, if they had been, they’d moved already.
She continued, If were to experience an emergency landing either on land or over water, all passengers needed to be made aware of how to exit the plane calmly.
Do all airline attendants take a “crash” course at Disney, or what? This wasn’t real language; this was make-believe. I turned to her, in an attempt at being funny, and said, Well, if we crash in water, we’re in really big trouble.
I was only flying down to Jackson, Mississippi, I grinned, Where was the water? (A question that I should have never asked).
She, in as professional a voice as I suppose they can teach you at Northwest Airlines, reminded me that we did fly right over the Mississippi River. And, that it was a large enough body of water. But, not to worry.
We were in good hands.
Sure, sure, I thought, I just don’t know whose.
At least, she gave me my next tomato juice for free.