Here is a list, far from exclusive, of things that aggravate me: people on cell phones behind the wheels of cars; vomit; I cannot stand pudding, at all, and other things that fall in that category include meringues and Cool Whip; individuals who misuse (or use at all) the conveyor belts in line at the grocery store, except when absolutely necessary; and cheap toilet paper.
Again, this is far from an exclusive list.
Of the things listed above, several have affected me in the last 24 hours.
Last night I dreamed I couldn’t quite get up this rather large hill. It was exhausting, and I couldn’t catch my breath to get further than halfway up it. I was very disappointed in myself, in my dream, as I consider myself to be in rather pristine health. I woke up this morning, and there laying acoss my chest was Max, all 100+ pounds of him.
As a dog, I love him, as someone to sleep with – he may kill me.
I pushed him off my chest so as to ward off the complete suffocation, and he jumped off onto the floor, and vomited. There are few more unpleasant sounds in this good, green world than that of vomiting. It seems even more tragic when it’s an animal. Even one who has tried to kill you as you slept. And let’s not overlook what we’re all thinking: had I not woken up in time…(gross, right?)
Of course, the truly awful part is that you know it isn’t going to clean itself. I was less compassionate when I saw it consisted mainly of leaves from the backyard. Why he insists on eating them is beyond me. Ya Ya used to tell me that animals knew when they were sick and they’d traipse off to the woods to find certain leaves to expunge their stomachs.
None of that vital knowledge, though, made the clean-up any faster or easier. In fact, it just aggravated me. (But god bless, Amanda. But hey, before you say another word – remember – it is her dog, after all).
Then, came the grocery store incident. Which I will recall for you, here, in some detail:
When I’m at the grocery store, which is one of my absolute favorite activities, as you may as well know right out – it’s one of the few pure joys I have in my life. I love to take my time and touch all the products. I’m very haptic, as I’ve pointed out, I’m sure. I like to touch the loaves of bread and the fruit glaze packages (though I’d never, ever allow that to come within 100 feet of my mouth). There’s just something so delicious about the weight of objects.
And, without a doubt, I’m a full-fledged member of the Reads the Complete Ingredients List. I like to know what’s going in my body. I wasted a lot of years on junk food. It’s going to take a long time to clean all of that out. (Maybe I should go in to the backyard with Max, one afternoon and learn a few things).
But, the real aggravation comes when I’m putting my groceries on the counter/conveyor belt, and I only do this when I’ve got more groceries than I can carry in my arms, and the clerk is with another customer, but she insists on using the belt, you know, that moves your groceries down to her so she can run them across that red sensor light that never ceases to make me think of the End Times and Armageddon, and “check” their bar codes, are you still with me?
And you? What are you doing? Just trying to keep all your groceries together, that’s all. At least that’s what I do because I’m extremely OCD about holding all of my groceries together. I like to make a little family unit out of them: the mayonnaise is always the Daddy, but I can’t very well do that because she won’t turn the blame thing off…and so before I can help it, my Daddy Mayonnaise is rolling down the other side to the bags (they sit at the end of the conveyor belt), and my onions will not sit still – I should have never expected them to – I can’t even think about what I’m gonna do with the 2-liter Fresca, bubbling up in retaliation right in front of my very face.
It’s a madhouse, and she, this cashier, is completely unconcerned about it…the woman in front of me is just getting Cool Whip and cat litter but now she’s got two of my tomatoes and a loose jar of peanut butter hurtling themselves toward her 10-lb. bag of Purse like they’re old lovers reunited after a lengthy hospital stay due to a specific type of surgery like a bladder retacking that went a little awry (but would fix itself in a matter of 5-6 weeks, tops), and I’m trying to be cool about it, like It’s ok, I’ll get the tomatoes, I’ll fix this in just a few minutes, but you don’t say anything because that would make the entire situation too awkward, but she’s more than ready to announce to the cashier, that, No, these aren’t my items. I’m not paying for these rogue tomatoes. And you’re forced to make a little smile about it, and apologize.
You should never have to apologize at a grocery store, for anything.
You really shouldn’t even have to explain one single, solitary thing, at a grocery store. All you’re wanting is for the clerk to turn the damn belt off so that, unlike everyone else in the world, I, at least, could keep my groceries with me! Am I on the belt? Yes. But, it’s because I can’t hold all my groceries with me. Do I want the belt to move? No, I do not. Not for Cool Whip and cat litter. I can’t help that I’m on the belt, ok. I have some items that are too fragile for the journey, namely my eggs. Maybe she could switch it to a lower speed? More than anything it’s just embarrassing.
But, she doesn’t care, the clerk. Nope. She just flips that little switch and conveys everything to kingdom come.
And that…that is something that irritates me. That aggravates me.
That, and, cheap toilet paper.
Which I purchased day before yesterday at Walgreen’s. The store that you go to when you’re less than perfect. (I still don’t really agree with the concept of that commercial).
A lot of things happened to me as a small child, and they were upsetting and scarring and are now par for the course in my blogging life. Case in point: I was nine years old, and Aunt Ruth had come to stay for a interminably lengthy period at U.L.’s. Several people did that after Tigi died; she was U.L.’s mother and Aunt Ruth’s sister. I suppose it was her turn. I can’t remember that part.
She was a darner, though, that I remember and well. She darned from morning until night. When she finally went back home, the house was littered with plastic five-sided tissue boxes that she’d darned together with bright red yarns and pink shimmer yarns. Tissue boxes for every size of container. They are still at U.L.’s house because to move them would have been to insult her, and now that she, too, has passed on, it would be adding insult to injury (even though, I consider these “darn” tissue boxes to be a great injury), to touch them and move them.
Instead, they sit on the backs of toilets and on bedside tables collecting dust, which yarn does very well. Maybe that was the real gift Aunt Ruth was giving us.
I can still see this day-in-question as clear as a bell (whatever that actually means); the day I became afraid of bathrooms.
I’d thought Aunt Ruth was asleep, taking a nap the way well-behaved old people should, and I had gone to use the bathroom because my stomach was full. I was a nervous, private child at U.L.’s. It was mostly like living in a museum with Jesus’s kid brother. That kind of intense, reverent ambience. You did things quietly at U.L.’s.
Except Aunt Ruth, on this particular occasion.
Out of a dead sleep, I guess, she rose, and quickly. I was just about to wipe. I had torn several 2-ply pieces of toilet paper to assist me in this process when the bathroom door swung up to reveal my small frame on the procelain toilet to Aunt Ruth and the rest of the house – which was empty, yes, but that’s beside the point.
“I hope you’re not wadding,” she said.
“Ma’am?”
“Never wad. It’s wasteful. Fold, Kris. Tear off a few pieces, at a time, and fold. Like this.”
The demonstration was embarrassing enough. Having to show her that I understood what she meant has so seared itself into my conscience that unless I die in the bathroom, and can somehow alert you to that fact on my “way down”…I always go alone to the bathroom, whether it’s a stomach problem, a shower, or I’m brushing my teeth; I cannot share a bathroom. I am simply too scarred to correct that behavior.
I have no doubt that she did what she did with the best of intentions.
But, it has left me with a complex that I’m not entirely sure the DSM IV has been made aware of; if and when they do become aware of it, I’d be flattered if they named it after her. I’d be the first to sign the petition. I still get anxious in my own bathroom. My hygienic sanity is worn and frail, and barely hangs on by a thin string when I’m at my own house, let alone in public.
God, I can’t even think about public restrooms.
Oh, you know, wait, to be fair, I shouldn’t say it hangs on by a thin string. It’s much more like a piece of yarn.
Yeah, that’s better. Don’t you think?
A nice, red, shimmering piece of yarn.
That’s what I meant.